QUESTION: My young daughter is under constant care for asthma.
In general we are doing well, but when she gets off base, and I try to correct her, I'm in real trouble.
She begins wheezing, and I'm afraid she'll have a full blown attack, so I let her get away with what she's done.
Can the stress of our disagreement actually bring on an attack? Please help this distressed mother.
ANSWER: It's true that any extremely frustrating, frightening or upsetting situation may trigger some wheezing in the asthmatic child.
But discipline is essential for any child.
Start by having a good heart to heart chat with your daughter.
And pick a time when there is nothing else brewing.
Explain that you love her, but that everyone, including adults as well as children, must live by certain rules.
When we don't, we must accept the consequences. Many asthmatic children suffer from added emotional problems.
They may be afraid of dying.
They often suffer from feelings of inferiority because they can't compete in some activities or because of repeated absences from school.
These emotional problems may lead to depression. If you can't regain control of the discipline problem, I strongly suggest seeing a psychologist or social worker to help you and your daughter. Frequently, a calm voice of reason from outside the family can bring about the desired effect. Also, be sure to check that your daughter is taking her medication when she is being corrected.
Some children purposely skip medication while "grounded", knowing full well it'll spur symptoms.
It's their way of getting back at concerned parents.
The material contained here is "FOR INFORMATION ONLY" and should not replace the counsel and advice of your personal physician.
Promptly consulting your doctor is the best path to a quick and successful resolution of any medical problem.
